There are actions you can take to fortify your belief in yourself. Be your own best cheerleader and encourage yourself to get your tasks done. Learn to break down your challenges into small steps until you know that you can do it. I learned this tactic when my business was struggling. I knew what I wanted to achieve in the long run but I lacked confidence in my ability to make it happen.
So, instead of being overwhelmed by the big picture, I got into the habit of setting 90 day plans to bring myself closer to achieving the big goal. I would then break the 90 day plan down into monthly targets and finally, daily actions. I could then focus on the daily actions which I had enough confidence to pursue. Believing in yourself can be difficult when you are facing a big and daunting goal but when you break it down into bitesize actions, it becomes so much easier.
The support of others will definitely benefit you, but it is you who must make the changes necessary for you to start believing in yourself. If you are going to start believing in yourself, it is you who must make the change. Others cannot make you believe in yourself; they can only be supportive. If a goal seems too big for you, then keep breaking it down until you reach a point where you do believe you can do it.
You can then grow your self-belief from there. Believe in your ability to learn and grow. When you create a vision or dream for the life you want, you give yourself something to aim for. You have criteria which you can use to make your decisions and; you start to realise that you do not have to be great at everything. When you develop a clear vision for what you want, start developing strategies for realising that vision and start achieving small goals along the way; you increase your self-belief, one small step at a time.
Get into the habit of setting goals both short-term and long-term.
Then, you can take active steps to achieve them. With every goal that you achieve, no matter how small, your confidence will increase. Believing in yourself is not some miracle of fate; it comes from creating a track record of achievement. That track record starts with setting goals. It is not just the completion and achievement of the goal which increases your self-belief. As you complete each task along the way to the achievement of the goals, you give yourself a little boost.
Self-belief is built step by step, action by action. Goals are a very effective way to build your self-belief because properly set goals require you to stretch a little outside of your comfort zone; causing you to expand your comfort zone as you achieve the goal. As you begin to see yourself as worthy of being treated with respect, others begin to get that message too. We all know how it is important to treat others with respect and dignity.
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When they screw up, we usually go easy on them because we know that we make mistakes too. We understand that mistakes are a natural part of life. Unfortunately, when we make the mistake ourselves; all that goes out the window. Rather than treat ourselves with respect and dignity, accepting that it was an honest mistake; we berate and admonish ourselves. We send the same message to anyone who witnesses our over the top behaviour. It is often said that you should treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. It is just as important to treat yourself with the same respect and dignity that you would offer to others.
Remember the childhood story about the little engine that could? Build momentum to fuel your motivation. To ensure your motivation for your biggest goals, take the time to understand why you want to achieve them. You should also regularly take the time to visualise your life as it will be once you have achieved the goal i. The old saying that where there is a will there is a way is very true.
When you reinforce your motivation like this, you will create an iron-clad will to achieve your goal and you will find a way to make it happen.
Believing in yourself is that powerful. Your desire is so strong that you just start working on it. Happiness gives branches.
Believing in yourself made easy
Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion.
A Lamp in the Darkness: Illuminating the Path Through Difficult Times - Jack Kornfield
Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions. Rather, we must learn an inner solitude wherever or with whomsoever we may be. We must learn to penetrate things and find God there. You will come to life. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.
Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle.
Believing in yourself – a critical step on the path to success
You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. Not thinking but not dreaming. Not being set but flexible. Liberation from the uneasy sense of confinement. It is being wholly and quietly alive, aware and alert, ready for whatever may come. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.
It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives — choice, not chance, determines your destiny. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice.
It does not shout at you, that is true. And if you are a little silent you will start feeling your way. Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. You need to accept yourself. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life.
True happiness and true power lie in understanding yourself, accepting yourself, having confidence in yourself. They allow us to overcome the problems that life hands us.